‘So, are you a loner?’
A typical question about introversion. The answer is yes and no.
Let me put it this way, I love my own company. I’ve never once felt alone by myself or yearned for the company of others because I feel like I am isolating myself. In fact I love isolating myself from the outside world for a while. Does this mean I’m a loner? Yes, maybe. But I don’t think of it that way. Don’t get me wrong, I love hanging out with my friends, or going out to events (sometimes). But most of the time, I spend it with myself, or just doing a self-care routine.
I am actually quite an out-going person. I can keep a conversation going, and I’ve gotten out of that shy phase I’ve been in for quite a while. I found confidence in myself. I do often get pounced on though because I prefer the company of myself over others.
If I’m being completely honest, talking to others drains me. I dread opening up Snapchat or Instagram or Twitter, because I know I am going to have a ton of messages waiting for me. I feel terribly guilty sometimes, because I can happily go for days without talking to the closest people in my life. This can reflect badly on me, and I’m sat there thinking do they think I’m a bad friend? or I hope they don’t think I do not want to talk to them.
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People get this idea about introverted people. Supposedly, we are shy, loners and antisocial. I cannot stress this enough how untrue this is. When I mention what I’m studying in college, some can be confused and wonder how I’m studying nursing. ‘But like, you’re so shy, don’t you have to have a bubbly personality for that career?‘ I’m even rolling my eyes thinking about that question.
Just because I am introverted does not mean that I cannot be bubbly or great to talk to. The truth is, I value quality over quantity. I do not feel the need to talk to many people, as long as I am content with the few I do talk to. I’m not inclined to talk to people or make an effort with them, if I feel we will not click. Like I said, I have a bubbly personality, and I say things that make people laugh.
Sometimes the most extroverted people can be the most introverted. (Unless you’re in the middle, of course, which means you’re an ambivert.)
I guess the message behind this post is: it is not easy to read a person based off of what they show you. I’ve always been taught, do not judge a book by it’s cover.